What's this? A good day? Wha?????

When you have an angry 15 year old son, most days tend to be filled with tension and stress.  I would say that 5 days out of my 7 day week are tension filled.  Everything is a fight.
 He asks, "Can I go _________ (enter there where he wants to go at that time)?"
 I say, "no."
"Why not?" he asks, with a slight whisper of irritation in his voice.
"Because I don't know the people you are wanting to go with and I am not comfortable because I have not heard great things about that kid." This is one of my many responses.  I could have also said, "well, because it is my birthday and we are having a meal and I would like you to spend time with me."  And that actually was my response a few weeks ago when we had a family get together for my birthday.  My point being, his response still would have been this:  "YOU DON'T LET ME DO ANYTHING!"
Sigh...
And that seems to usually be our conversations.  If I do let him go with someone I do know then his response is "thank you mommy!  I love you."  Which actually irritates me more than the attitude because I know he is saying it just because he is getting what he wants which makes me question if he really even loves me (I do actually know he loves me, just doesn't always feel that way). 
Five days out of seven of this gets very old.  I am not sure how much of this is going on because of his age or because of what he has been through in the last year.  I would guess to say a mixture of both. 
But, when I get a good day out of him, it is so refreshing.  Today, for instance, I got him up for work, no problem!  Picked him up mid-morning from work-no problem!  He took a nap and when he woke up, he was happy.  Hungry, but happy!  He started asking me if I had heard this new song by One Direction (which I hadn't because I don't listen to most current artists) and then he played it for me.  Then he asked me other questions.  HE SPEAKS!!!!  After all of that, my best friends little 5 year old girl that is staying with us begged to go to the pool.  I had no interest in going to the pool and my son said, " It's cool!  I will take her and watch her!"  Someone has abducted my child and sent a happy clone in his place.  I am down with it. :D
It is so sad that days like these are so few and far between that I don't even know how to respond to them when they do come along.  Just soak it in I guess, until the flip is switched and the tension and stress are back.  When we have these days, I think, "oh good.  Progress."  Then the next 5 days in a row will be heinous and I feel like we have taken 3 steps forward and 15 back. It is draining.  I feel tired all the time, physically and emotionally.  Even today, on the good day, I feel like I could drop and sleep for the entire day.  I think some depression may have to do with that.  I think we both may be struggling with a bit of this.  Mine manifests itself in being exhausted all the time and his in being irritable all of the time.  If I thought it was a chemical imbalance I would get him to the doctor but I feel like it's more of a heart issue.  I guess maybe a doctors visit would not hurt anything.  If his age is playing a factor then because of puberty his hormones would be all over the place and some of them causing issues.  I don't know. 
What I do know is that I am going to enjoy this day and pray that they become more frequent and the tension filled ones become the days that are fewer and far between.